Monday, November 9, 2009

The Season of Singleness

"When I get married..." How often have I heard this phrase? Feminists scorn to say it, yet conservative homeschool girls cling to it with something that sometimes borders desperation. Both bother me.

Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:7 that singleness is a gift! All of us are called to singleness. For some it may only be 18 or 20 years. For others perhaps 30. For a few, it may be a lifetime. The season of singleness is one of the few times in your life that are unburdened by the care of a spouse, or children--embrace it!

Instead of being discontent and longing for an earthly bridegroom, cultivate a relationship with the true bridegroom! "As a young man marries a young woman, so shall your sons marry you, and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you." --Isaiah 62:5

Look for ways you can serve others around you. Teenagers especially are at one of the rare stages that have minimal responsibilities and maximum capacity to serve. Many church volunteers are tired, burned-out parents who often have to neglect an area of their lives in order to serve the church while the teenagers--instead of giving back to the church--require spiritual babying. This is not how it should be! "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity." This doesn't just mean be an example to the young believers...we should be an example to our elders too.

The day we stop daydreaming, look outside ourselves, and seek to serve others--that is the day we will find our true joy and fulfillment in Christ.


The Kings daughter said...

Wow! That is a great reminder for all of us single young ladies. Thanks for those thoughts, and scripture references.

Treasures from a Shoebox said...

What a wonderful exhortation! You are a Godly example to those young people all around you. I am your newest follower~ my 18 year old daughter (not a blogger) has much in common with you. :)

Briana said...

So very true--I have been especially impressed with some very similar ideas these last few months. We are so comparatively "free" in these "in-between" years--why don't we use that to GOD's glory? Thank you for this post!

~Briana (stopping by from Raising Homemakers) :)

Catherine said...

Mrs. Long, you should convince your daughter to start a blog--I find it so encouraging simply to read posts of other like-minded sisters in Christ! :)

Briana, productive singleness is something I feel very strongly about. I'm so glad you feel the same way! Thank you for stopping by!